Anger is a normal emotion that we feel when somebody or something hurts us. What we do when we feel angry is sometimes a problem. Some people feel like hurting themselves or others, some people feel like destroying or breaking things that they value or treasure. This may be a behavioural pattern which is difficult to break. People with this behavioural pattern, often feel like they have no choice but to do this. Counselling helps by teaching people with these behavioural patterns how to express their anger in a less destructive or harmful way. Counselling helps people to learn that they can be angry and put the angry energy into doing something more positive. The person then feels empowered and is able to break this behavioural pattern by choosing to do something different.
Some people self harm as a means of coping with difficult or emotional situations. When they are feeling angry, frustrated, upset or disappointed, they may decide to hurt themselves in order for them to stop feeling those emotions as they may have become overwhelming for them. Counselling is often useful as it helps the person to explore these feelings and what originally caused them. There are different ways in which people self harm. Cutting themselves, drinking too much alcohol, punching walls or doors, pinching themselves, not eating or over eating, over exercising. These are just some of the ways in which some people self harm and they are a way of masking their emotions that often they feel unable to talk about or express. Counselling can therefore help to bring these emotions into their awareness and help them to express them in a useful and therapeutic manner.